Please join us for an online chat discussion of The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence by Gavin de Becker.
This is the first mainstream book in our reading list, because it’s so very relevant for the BDSM community. The Gift of Fear is the classic work on spotting danger signals, evaluating your instinctive reactions to make risk assessments about potential violence. The author is a top security consultant – threats, stalking, abuse, shootings, you name it – and also a survivor of childhood violence. Abuse survivors are very, very good at reading people. This book is his attempt to teach us what he learnt from growing up around gunshots.
It’s also a very good read. Solidly researched, simple and practical, and reads like a thriller.
Trigger warnings (partial): sexual assault, gun violence, threats, stalking.