Please join us for an online chat discussion of Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships, edited by Raven Kaldera. You can get the book here:
Only the first half of the book (pages 1-112) will be discussed at this meeting. In terms of book sections, that means Leather, 1950’s Style, The Victorians, Nobility and Fealty, Ancient Echoes.
Looking forward to seeing you there!
Please join us for an online chat discussion of The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence by Gavin de Becker.
Click here for event details.
This is the first mainstream book in our reading list, because it’s so very relevant for the BDSM community. The Gift of Fear is the classic work on spotting danger signals, evaluating your instinctive reactions to make risk assessments about potential violence. The author is a top security consultant – threats, stalking, abuse, shootings, you name it – and also a survivor of childhood violence. Abuse survivors are very, very good at reading people. This book is his attempt to teach us what he learnt from growing up around gunshots.
It’s also a very good read. Solidly researched, simple and practical, and reads like a thriller.
Trigger warnings (partial): sexual assault, gun violence, threats, stalking.
For our June 4 meeting, we will discuss these online articles:
These other resources are also relevant, but they will not be the focus of our discussion:
Our next meeting (June 4) will be a discussion of abuse in kinky relationships. Can you recommend any online reading?
So far we have Identifying Potentially Abusive Partners. This is a vanilla source that repeatedly refers to the abusive partner’s paranoia.
Looking forward to your suggestions! It would be great to have them in this thread by Friday morning (May 15) so that we can make a decision over the weekend.
P.S. Most of the discussion will probably be in our FetLife forum. It’s free to sign up.
When Laura Antoniou heard that this reading group was discussing her novel The Marketplace, she offered to come over to our FetLife group to answer our questions. WOW. Now that’s fan service!
We are repaying her generosity with the toughest questions we could manage. Thank you so much, Laura!
We’re celebrating the holiday season with a film screening!
Venus in Fur is a 2013 French film (subtitled). The reviews say things like “caustically brilliant” and “sexually charged.” The trailer may excite you in more ways than one. Personally I like the bit where she calls the book sexist S&M porn and hurls it into the fire.
For once, you don’t have to read anything before the meeting. But if you do want background, the film is based on the Broadway play by David Ives, which is based on the classic 1870 novella by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, who gave his name to masochism.
Click here for event details. Note that we are starting earlier than usual so we can fit in both the film and a discussion.